Thursday, April 17, 2014

...But It's More Important To Be Nice

I've been "noticing nice" lately.

It started at Cam's preschool.  There was this awkward moment when--after giving me stacks of forms to fill out and papers to sign--Cam's special education teacher held my hand.  I kind of pulled away but then wasn't sure what to do so I made my hand resemble a dead fish and did nothing!  But then I realized it was kind of nice to have someone care so much and so I held her hand back and I found myself feeling comforted and calmed.  Funny how "awkward" morphed to "okay."  It became the moment when I knew everything was going to be alright.


Later that afternoon, I ran into my looney neighbor.  I will spare you the sordid details of all his drunken stupors and unfortunate miscreations.  Nor will I recount the number of times his children have been in jail for drugs.  (A lot.)  All that "stuff" aside, I ran into him in our community's parking lot.  He asked me how my baby was doing and told me I looked "really good" for having "just had a baby."  I reminded him that I had actually had my baby more than six months ago. He looked surprised and I laughed to myself, knowing our "friendly neighborhood drunk" was...well...drunk.  A few seconds passed before he smiled at me and said, "Well!  You look great!"  He followed it with a, "Maybe you should go eat something."  I laughed and thought, "Aw, he was trying to be nice...and nice counts for something."

Nice matters.  Nice is important.  Nice is necessary.  (Especially in a world that is not so nice sometimes!)  Nice changes everything.



Right before dinner (and out of nowhere!), it became imperative to Lilly to deliver love notes to some of her friends who live on our small street.  Initially I sighed at the inconvenience of this project.  I had spaghetti to make and a baby to feed.  But instead I watched as she rounded up sheets of paper from various desk drawers; even snatching a couple from the computer's printer.  I watched as she drew hearts and flowers all over them, and included sweet sentiments like, "I love you," and, "I'm glad we're friends."  And lastly, I watched her skinny little legs (in pink polka dot tights and a green, flamingo-print skirt) walk from door to door to door.  I stood on my front porch and used my hand to shield my eyes from the end-of-the-day sunlight; I watched as she delivered her notes to her loved ones.

  
Because she needed them to know how she feels about them. 

I'm certainly not perfect, and truthfully, I'm not always nice.  I have been down and depressed.  I have been in dark places and on painful paths.  I have been grumpy, seeking to sulk like "Gloomy Ol' Eeyore."  I have known the struggles of being kind and happy in the midst of sorrow...

But I know I can try.  I can always try to be nice.  Every day.  To everyone.  And I can raise children who try, too.  They can learn it through my example.  I will have succeeded as a mother if I raise nice children.   

Because nice matters.




     


26 comments:

  1. Nice SO does matter! You are a great example of that.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Aleisha,
    How well you have taught Lily by your example.
    Claudia.

    ReplyDelete
  3. You 'spread nice' on your blog all the time! You're a great example.

    ReplyDelete
  4. What a beautiful post. I couldn't agree more, and funnily enough, I just posted on being 'nice' as well. Great minds think alike :)
    Mimi @ http://atrayofbliss.blogspot.com.au/2014/04/modern-day-manners-and-nicieties-of.html

    ReplyDelete
  5. this made me smile for so many reasons.
    i can just picture lilly sitting, writing "love notes" like crazy and giddily passing them out around the neighborhood. i miss her!
    i lol at the "neighborhood drunk"...i thought "hey!! i've heard all about him!" a shame i didn't get to meet him! ;) maybe next time.
    nice does matter, dammit. you ARE nice. more than nice. you are real and spread kindness wherever you go.
    xoxox
    tacohead

    ReplyDelete
  6. Exoprt Packers and Movers in India are known to provide moving & packing services at the rates that actually fit in make you local shifting solutions experts for amazing only.
    Packers and Movers in Bangalore
    Packers and Movers in Hyderabad
    Packers and Movers in Chennai
    Packers and Movers in Mumbai
    Packers and Movers in Pune

    ReplyDelete
  7. How did you can avail the experts services of listed Adword India's No 1 companies?
    Thanks for information visit: http://www.adword.co.in/

    ReplyDelete
  8. Professional moving and packing companies have very systematic ways of reallocating goods. They not only simply packs your goods and dispatch it to the intended location but they offer wholesome services like unpacking and rearranging goods at your new place.
    Packers and Movers Delhi
    Packers and Movers Faridabad
    Packers and Movers Ghaziabad
    Packers and Movers Noida

    ReplyDelete
  9. Get a wide range of packing and moving companies at helloenquiry.in. We endeavour to furnish the best packers and movers companies in Jodhpur at ease of Internet. Packers and Movers Jodhpur

    ReplyDelete

I LOVE hearing from you! Thanks for making my day brighter with your comments! I mean it. (Now go have yourself a Diet Coke!)